Advice from a dear friend when I was having a down day last week, 3,000 miles away and she knew exactly what I needed.
This morning I hop on Facebook and read a sad post from another dear friend, with the sad face saying (insert friend’s name) – is feeling betrayed. Betrayal, the worst feeling ever. Hearing a friend cry, a friend who is stronger then she realizes, more beautiful then she’ll ever know, is heartbreaking. I know only too well the feelings she is having. Having to tell yourself enough is enough. Having to be strong not only for yourself but for your child. Having to know, understand, and accept that you deserve better. I let her cry, talk, laugh, mumble in confusion, try to make sense of it all, just be there for her as she and others have been there for me through the past year. I try not to compare situations, but give her the best advice I was given by my aunt….. “You can’t change people, places, or things, you can only change yourself!”
As much as I hated hearing those words over and over and over again over the last year, it stuck with me and carried me through. Divorce is never easy, not if you are a product of divorce and wanted to give your child the ‘perfect’ family, not if you were truly in love. But top it off with lies, infidelity, and the worst of all, betrayal.
betray: verb (used with object)